Building Resilience: It's a Practice

Resilience is that ability to bounce back and maintain elasticity, and it’s related to all facets of our lives – body, mind, heart, spirit, however you want to articulate your complex self.  It doesn’t matter if you are an entrepreneur or executive, leader or follower – resilience is a capability that we all need.

Resilience in our bodies means that – through repeated practice – we’ve trained our bodies to recover from injury.  Two of the best practices for physical resilience are a thoughtful yoga program and well-designed training that suits your goals and capabilities.

Resilience in our minds helps us adjust quickly to the shifting sands of reality – those unexpected (yet inevitable) events that can derail a sound mind if we are rigid and unprepared. Preparation and planning are generally part of what you do at work and in life, and those practices serve a purpose in helping you move forward toward a goal or outcome that you want.  If you have planned well for a vacation, for example, a change in weather or an equipment malfunction is easier to manage.

Resilience in our hearts and spirits protects us against emotional injury and makes recovery faster and easier. Having a strong sense of self-worth, powerful faith and compassion toward others are all indicators of emotional resilience.

Learning by doing – practicing – through meditation or taking time to reconnect your mind, soul and body throughout the day, can build resilience for the times when you experience a crisis, or when you are under fire for a length of time and you have to show up cool under pressure.  Without practice, it will be tough in the moment to wrangle your emotions and physical responses to respond as your best self.

If you want to begin a resilience practice, keep your eye on the word “practice.” As in, “it’s not going to be perfect” kind of practice, the kind of practice that is never truly “done.” 

Like learning anything new, patience is a virtue. Doing even an imperfect practice is much better than no practice. This is on-the-job training at its best, and most of your daily experiences are opportunities to practice resilience – managing a difficult co-worker, establishing a new vendor relationship, calling a plumber to your house on a Saturday night.

One of my mentors is Doug Silsbee, a pioneer in presence-based leadership.  Here is a link to his approach for creating a resilience practice. The key is to create time and space each day and have a goal for your practice. Doug challenges us to ground at least 10 times a day. That means breathing, feeling your feet on the floor and reshaping your posture to settle yourself for a few minutes.  When I began this practice, I put those times on my calendar as reminders.

Try to schedule a couple of walks in your day of 10-15 minutes just to clear your mind and reconnect with your body. Notice if you are feeling emotionally triggered and think about why that might be.  Jot notes down in a journal and keep track of when you need to practice more in order to avoid being triggered.

Practice often makes for more practice, and the goal is not to be perfect, but to be consistently in a practice. That in and of itself builds resilience.